Things You Do That Are Killing The Mood

Movies and TV shows have an extremely unrealistic way of making sex seem more romantic and less awkward than it is in real life. You don’t always say all the right things, and your clothes don’t always come off as fluidly as Hollywood wants you to think. If your sex life is anything but perfect, don’t panic because you aren’t alone. Here are things that you (and everyone else) does that are killing the mood.

Talk too much. Whether it be out of nervousness or because you genuinely have a lot to say, talking too much can be a turn off. Besides, if you’re too busy talking, it means you’re not using your mouth for other, more important things.

Asking “are you done yet?” This makes the other person feel pressured to finish, which means they don’t get to enjoy what’s happening as much as they should. If they put in the work for you, you should at least have the decency to let them enjoy it too.

Over-enthusiam. If you’re faking it, they’ll know. Rather than pretend like you’re enjoying it, be honest with them and tell them what’s working and what isn’t so they’ll be able to improve.

Being lazy. Expecting your partner to do all the work is selfish and can be quite a turn off. While it’s fine to want to get your needs met, keep in mind that it takes two to tango.

Criticism. Nobody wants to hear “you’ve put on some pounds!” or “has that mole always been there?” while they’re getting ready to bare it all. Keep your thoughts, and comments, to yourself.

Falling asleep. Yes, this can happen. If you’re running low on sleep, or are simply bored with your current situation, accidentally falling asleep is a possibility, and a total mood killer.

Bad smells. For the sake of both you and your partner, make sure you get a shower in, or at least put some deodorant on before jumping into the sheets with one another. Nothing can be more off-putting than the smell of a hard day’s work in your face.

Distractions. If you’ve got a lot on your mind, it’ll show. You won’t be able to focus on what’s going on, and for your partner, it might feel like they’re sleeping with a lifeless body.

Phone. When you answer your phone in the middle of doing the deed. That conversation with your mom regarding next week’s dentist appointment to fill your cavity doesn’t need to happen at that very moment.

Injury. While some like it rough, it can be hard to gauge when it’s too hard. Start off easy, until you start to learn what your partner really likes.

Sweats. Wearing unflattering clothes. Yes, your sweats are comfy, but definitely not sexy. Wearing lingerie will not only put you in the mood, but will make you feel more confident and sexy.

Saying the wrong name. This is more likely to happen if you’re single, and playing the field. Try not to let the wrong name slip, or you run the risk of ruining the mood, and never seeing that person again.

Insecurity. Being insecure about your body. Chances are, your partner’s not worried about when the last time you shaved was, or the way your stretch marks look in the light. By trying to awkwardly hide your flaws, you are allowing your insecurities to get the best of you.

Crying. If you’re been through a recent break up and you are having rebound sex, you might find yourself in a situation where you can’t stop thinking about you ex. This will lead to unwanted feelings, and inevitably, tears, something your partner definitely won’t find sexy.

Skipping foreplay. Foreplay is just as important as any other aspect of getting intimate. Trying to rush and get to the point will result in less enjoyable sex, and a totally murdered mood.

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