Woman Share The Reasons They’ve Stopped Having Sex With The Husbands They Love Due To Loss Of Libido

One out of every five marriages currently struggles with a lack of sexual attraction in the bedroom. Despite what some may think, there are many wives who still love their husbands but just can’t see themselves having sex with them. In fact, they lost all their libidos. So, what happened to these once-fiery marriages? What make women lose their libidos and stop having sex? Rebel Circus uncovered a number of confessions that answer what happened to some sexless wives…Are you a woman that deals with the loss of your libido? Let us know how you’re dealing with it in the comments section below.

Redditor Lazylove Had A Lot To Confess About What’s Happened To Her Libido. “We’ve been married for 5 years, and it used to be so hot between us, up until I had our first child. At first I just chalked it up to fatigue from nursing, and keeping up with a fast growing child. Then we had our second child before I could really begin to worry that it might be something more. Now I have no desire to initiate, encourage, or even comply with my husband,” she wrote. “I can’t figure out why this is happening. I don’t want to be romanced, or any foreplay.”

Another Wife Said It Had Everything To Do With Kids. User DivinelyMinely wrote, “Completely lost my libido during the early parenting years. I was ‘touched out.’ I had hands on me all day from people needing something: babies needing to nurse or toddlers wanting to cuddle before nap time and so on. It made it very difficult to appreciate my husband’s intimacy as different than my kids’ neediness.”

It Can Also Be Self-Esteem That Kills Libido. SuperSimoholic said, “I wouldn’t say I have no interest in sex, but I have depression and a lot of the time I don’t feel ‘sexy’…Keep in mind, this has NOTHING to do with my partner. He is the most supportive person in the world and never holds it against me, but in the last 8 years my mental and physical health has declined and I’ve put on weight, and he’s only gotten more attractive and I just feel disgusting.”

The Mind Is Willing But The Flesh Is Soft And Squishy. “We have other priorities. We have kids to take care of and demanding jobs. One may be in the mood and the other is completely exhausted,” wrote another Redditor spouse.

This One Is Painful. Aviary83 has said she was married three times, with her first two marriages turning sexless after a year or so. Her third, not so much. “Turns out your libido doesn’t take a nose dive when you’re actually happy in a relationship,” she mused.

Age Did It For Her. TrifectaLoser said, “After menopause comes clitoral atrophy. Becomes almost impossible to orgasm. When sex is no longer enjoyable, it’s just annoying.”

Hormones Are Definitely A Recurring Factor. Cookievscupcake wrote, “A new birth control pill caused my libido to crash and burn completely. I literally stopped having sexual thoughts. I still cared about my boyfriend, but felt no attraction to him.”

Then There’s Confessions About What Would Make A Woman Lose Interest In Sex… User PaleMare said that the following things would end up making her lose libido: “Being a dick. Not helping out. Not having empathy. Not taking showers.”

Some Women Just Can’t Have Sex Without Love. Belanda_goreng talked about how her desire disappeared, “I thought it was not about him, honestly, I did. I loved him and wanted to spend my life with this guy. But looking back, I was out of love. It was my body’s way of telling me this, but I didn’t listen.”

Tragedy Also Makes It Hard To Have Sex. An anonymous Redditor said, “I’ve lost mine a few times when something earthshatteringly depressing happened in my life, like a big loss or something.”

Anti-Depressants Can Be A Reason, Too. GenJonesMom said, “While on anti-depressants, yes. Hate that sh*t. Even if you get turned on, you can’t come.”

Others Said That It Was Because Their Husbands Pushed Them Away. One woman anonymously said, “I kept trying to get him into me and kept making sexual advances. I love my husband, but I gave up. He’s just not sexual anymore.”

Some Wives Don’t Fully Understand Why It’s Happening To Them. “I just don’t feel that spark. I feel terribly guilty that I don’t share his feelings,” wrote glitterandunicorns. “I don’t know what’s wrong, here.”

Redditor Cairnwyn Explained A Lot Of Libido Loss Cases Very Succinctly. “It is easy to fantasize about strangers because when you look at them, you just see ‘hot’ not all the daily baggage that you have with your spouse. The monotony of daily life with kids weighs on a marriage and your sexual desire. I don’t think you are desiring sexual adventure so much as you are desiring an adventure of any sort, and since you aren’t sexually satisfied that is the area your mind is fantasizing about,” she wrote.

It Can Be Anything, Really. The bottom line is that it can be a number of different reasons, but if most wives were to seriously work at it, they would likely be able to make the spark come back.

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